Where is the child? So i asked another question that my daughter turned 18 in feburary and it states that if a child fails to or does not attempt to further education that child support stops when 18, The answer i got do you have proof Really!!!! Some men hate paying child support! And NEVER MARRY BOYS! How typical!! My bf is an amazing dad and from day one tried his best to be an active parent. And wont be able to really have my own place because my child support is so high. I can tell you know nothing. Im just trying to learn more about the situation. My ex is a college graduate from a top college to be a registered nurse. Both man and woman decide to take responsibility of that action equally. I paid for all the health insurance, I paid all the co-pays, I provided all the birthday, Easter, Christmas, etc., presents. Most jobs dont pay that. KS I feel you. How does a person survive off $3,000.00 / month income, when they have 2 kids (CS = $1,000.00 / month / child) with an ex-spouse that received full custody, WHILE PROVIDING FOR THEMSELVES. Im Im nor cal. If the shoe was on the other foot, I would have been locked up for molestation, and had my kids taken away. This is totally crazy talk. Of course she has never taken me up on it thought. My biological kids are so much better adjusted than my step children because of the positive relationship that their dad and I have.money has got to be taken out of the equation. I broke a window out of frustration I have never been so destitute in my life. Whilst many views float around arguing for and against child support, most decent fathers and parents would argue the issue is not whether or not they wish to support their children, but rather the often unfair conditions imposed upon them. also I am holding my revision of CS schedule (I Have custody) and am STILL responsible for 69% of CS (thanks in part to the 10% badbad father must pay baddad rule drafted under title IV-D of Social security act). These are just some of the most troubling issues men and fathers face in today's society, according to Dr. Gordon Finley, a professor of psychology at Florida International University who researches fatherhood and divorce. 50/50 custody does nothing to serve a child well, it screws them up.. modern day laws are completely out of touch with reality of best interest of the child standard its a joke, and as for a parent that doesnt want to pay child support, 50/50 will most likely grant it. The so-called judge cannot deprive you of your kid without due process. I have to save for a month to be able to take them to a movie. He never offered to take or come to any of her appointments or any radiation treatments (Mon-Fri). If you only owe arrears, they have the COAP thay you may want to look into. Oh yah, Im a female and see how these feminists have become the chauvinists (? nothing with the law is easy. She was the deadbeat but the courts awarded HER!!. Research has shown that men with outstanding child support debts tend to be less involved in their childrens lives. Its really is unfair in some ways now days. Bought a new camaro less that a year after leaving my ex in cash. I have been turned into an ATM machine and a babysitter in my kids life in many ways. Then, they guilt trip you by asking you want to take care of your child, dont you? If a pregnancy occur from the equal decision is when equality breaks down for the man. Stop your whining I am currently unemployed and I pay $1,600 for one child and my x-wife makes 70k a year and I have nothing save for retirement. Whose purpose is to: The OCSE assures that assistance in obtaining support (both financial and medical) is available to children through locating parents, establishing paternity and support obligations, and enforcing those obligations. The courts need to take into account all of the other broad complexities of a situation.. For example the federal governmetn says 12,000 a year is plenty for a single person to live off of, and then they have other numbers for familes with 1,2 or more children on what a single or family should be able to live off of. Whether it be mother or father the ones who make it work are the ones who care about the child over their own selfish biases. But the truth is, she is a photographer who works under the table. Are you kidding me?? But thats ok, I will continue paying my ex so she can get that new SUV. Judges will force noncustodial parents to get a job, any job to start paying welfare back or they will throw them in jail????? Anyone that thinks Child Support is fare needs to get a grip on reality! When the a Child Support Situation Becomes "Unfair" One of the most frustrating aspects of child support, which more often occurs with fathers, is that they are usually the one who is required to pay child support. Saying that I still think the system is broken and outdated. So back story on this case is my ex used to beat me all the time but I was young (17yrs old) and embarrassed to tell my mom about it she would always hit me when I was driving and almost causing accidents I would just take the slaps and hits she would justify it with its cuz my hormones smh. (Insert male grunt here). If your kids are young? She pulled their daughter out of school because it made her son gay. Although it is interesting to see these testimonials. I still sit here penalized with restrictions, garnishments etc when Ive supported my son since before an order ever existed. GUESS WHAT.STILL DOESNT PROVIDE ENOUGH! There are bad mothers and there are bad fathers. My advise is dont get married, have kids or be with anyone whos a gold digger. Having to pay a sitter just to go to the doctor/dentist etc. Thats a different story. There are no outlets, besides grassroot organizations for single fathers to reach when dealing with child support cases. #ChildSupportSystemChange. Women can get men fired from a job easily with just a mere sexual harassment allegation. Whenever he feels the need to put the daddy hat on. title IV-D of the social security act sad sad day. Divorce Tips For Men: What To Do With The House? What the courts dont tell you is that it is possible under Federal law to use a private agreement for child support. And the courts should revise theyre laws accordingly. Children do grow up and I have a 8 year old daughter that I would have a HARD time spending that on. Wrong. Yes! I have since raised all of the children, with the Lord and the crumbs he provided for child support. We equally fund the account but neither of us subsidizes the others life. Everyone on this bored is complaining, and rightfully so. But now she is taking me to court for past amounts as she knows she can get money. She faces no consequences. I was a scout den leader, I was the one who took them to practices, etc. it took them 3 weeks to even decide to allow me visitation..because of her plan and how she played the victim card..i dont have the money to sue for perjury. I calmly told him why are you talking to me in a rude manner and he got pissed he told me I dont need to respect you or put up with this and hung up on me. Fast forward to the childs 8th year and now my cousin is in between jobs but is currently working on getting his CDL license. How is this fair to my niece and nephew or to my other two children one of which is special needs. He can be thrown out of the childs life, and have to fight the mother for years to get his child back from the adoptive parents. Only for her to go for child support which she never paid to him she was barley in their childrens lives before they were 3 and 4 . The equal earning parents then have dramatically different post-child support budgets, since one is receiving and the other is paying. even knowing this who youre gonna call? (yes fair and equal treatment under the law). Every guys gonna do that now. Usually the wife will file multiple cases including domestic violence (99% false), cruelty on wife (most notorious section 498a, 98% fake) that will keep husband busy for 2 yrs to get bail of his relatives and parents including minors like nephews which are been named by the wife in complaint without any proof. Also the my ex didnt let me see my son for the until now I havent seen him. Meaning you will go to jail, not see your kids, and the support amount will accrue with interest while you are in jail. Dont believe me, read the Social Security Administraion Act, TITLE IV, Section D. So look at the facts: In most cases the mother gets custody and typically makes less than the father; thereby the courts order the father to pay support. Unfortunately, some parents dont take initiative to support their child but I do see that the system is flawed, I. My own years as single father were lean,. That we merley are just a number to be bought and sold! Hang in there and good luck. Not doing them again . The process will continue whether you want to participate or not. He has always had the child 15 days per month and she filed as though he didnt have any overnight stays and with false income information. She would stay in bed til 2 pm and get up and make herself food. Just recently here a 12 year old boy was locked in his bathroom for more than a year. Sometimes, I am confued whether we (India) copied laws from India or US copied our laws. The more child support the states collect, the more profit the state makes from the federal government for collecting child support. The current system does help in some instances but in this one i believe it created greed. Try 110 a week. If a threat follows a demand, its extortion. funny thats what Ive said for 16 years!but Im the woman who pays, I lost the house all 6 cars (truthfully it was evenly 3 his 3 mine) and 4 busineses, my accounts were ceased and several professional lawsuits and tax suits were filed following the big D, because of a prick x, whom I put thru college. My son-in-law lived with me for 12 years and I took care of their children. Each man was informed about the fatherhood program, each was given a speech about how pointless it is to lock up fathers for child support when it just costs the state money and puts the fathers out of work. It was on this faithful day, i came across some comments on a website about this great Helper called Robinson.buckler , so many persons claimed that he help them to renew their relationship and bring their ex back, i had to contact him because he was my last hope. Some how the lord works in mysterious ways, I have still been able to be there for kids, two jobs and steady plasma donation. Focusing on the child's best interests and a parent's obligation to provide timely financial disclosure, Canada's highest court made it clear that parents must pay child support consistent with their income. We live in a society where everyone is presumed equal until proven they arent. you will never pay it off. You will then find that the state is the real and true DEADBEAT! I pawned my truck, all that i had to my name, and he sent cps out the next day to figure out why i was not in jaik where he wanted me. A job I lost when I found out she had the affair with a co-worker. It took 4 years of back and forth through the courts trying to get the time-sharing custody plan in place so the child support could be reduced but she kept stalling and wouldnt provide her tax returns because she knew it would be all over for her. Its all spelled out in the Social Security Act Title IV, Part D, Section 458 Incentive Payments to states. Parents are supposed to support each other and their children not have children just to collect support. Child support is corrupt and judges are afraid of women bashing or what may be taken as that so they trow the book at us men. There will become a time that they grow older and have friends that want to hang out with do things with go places with but they want be able to because they will have to go to the other parents house . We should not feel criminalized because our spouses cheated on us, or villanized us, or whatever they did. However if the fathers income gets reduced , there is nothing in place to take that into consideration . The State of Indiana, St. Joseph County, specifically, awarded a court order of $2, 346.00, this at the initial child support hearing, 219.00 every two weeks. Im sure Steven, but for how long? I used to give him money for food on his weekends so that he would not cancel on them. CT allows parents to TPR for no ongoing relationships Daycare, my foot. SInce I was resposible and had a job I STILL was ordered to pay child support just because I had a job and she did not. Maybe one day deadbeat moms will receive equal treatment, but it wont be anytime soon. Now 6 months before their youngest turns 18 she sues is for 78,000.00 $20,000.00 is interest. Child Support Child Custody Cohabitation PreNup/PostNup Same-Sex Divorce I hope you both can work out your situations so your children dont end up paying the price. Maybe this elections cycle is a good time to get this on the radar of those seeking election. Sounds like someone doesnt want to admit whats really going on, but wants to place all the blame on the ex. Tags:alienation, Divorce laws, finances, income, Parental rights, unemployment. The only reason I say that is the reason I even saw your post. Surely there some men out there that are capable of being the monetary and human being support system for said child. The kids will come to their own conclusion in time. So who really is the dead beat. I think it should be a different system set up for father that showed they want to be in their child life but low life mothers dont allow it. I know one day when my daughter gets older her curiosity will get the best of her and she will find me and ask why. Now he is going to court in a few days to show why he isnt in contempt of court and our 10 month old baby may have to see her father go to jail because of this corrupt system!!! Fathers today still need support when experiencing divorce and child custody proceedings. Thats it! The burden of "deadbeat" parents is . An second if someones co worker ends up with the women you love are you going to remain at that job no you are going to asked to be moved to a different department which may impact what you make or you find a different job. The father has done everything in his power to avoid paying from jobs under the table to living with his mother to not filing taxes. Because child support should be a joint effort. I owe it to her to help with my kids, not a big deal. Dads with evidence of moms keeping them from seeing thier kids, should definatelty get in trouble. Sorry man. You want your kids? Women are not saints , far from it, this women used me to get her pregnant only to get child support and she doesnt even use it on the child. Problem is I havent gotten a single child support payment. I know he is avoiding being served, as that is very apparent. They take way over 20%. I have even seen thia to be true with foster kids. We decided to open a business because 30% of his check would go to child support. I have three children that I was able to watch come into this world. It is outrageous so even suggest that you shouldnt have to pay for supporting your child because your ex works hard. Joe , guess you end up paying anyway ! Single parents were given financial assistance from the government. I guarantee the child will not look at the money, but who showed more love for them emotionally. Darren. Oh, by the way, he old paid it because I filed for divorce and took him to court. So take ur bullshit to another 10000 million help mother pages. For his child support he is a child care worker, again he requested parent time with his 1st born and the court (a woman judge) told him he should be paying more child support (He is already paying more then the required formula states should be paid) so the judge told him to get a real job ( a woman would have never been told that!). but we keep a separate checking account for child specific expenses (sports, books, clothes, medical, school lunches etc.). child related expenses should be equally divided and same with medical and dental care. If she is collecting support on you and your sister while your father has custody, that is fraudulent. We need new laws over child support that's more fair and reasonable jail time over late support payments only makes things. Her mother lost the case in civil court and that made her mad enough to try to change custody. I make $80k per year, take home $3,900 after health insurance and taxes. While my ex orders pizza and goes out to dinner. There must be no good men because 90% of custody cases are awarded to women. I see it everyday. The father wasnt interested in parenting so I was able to avoid the drama. Those payments run from tens of millions to hundreds of millions of $$ per year. I continue to email my legislators asking them to make child support a shared responsibility instead of requiring the non-custodial parent to provide a government mandated lifestyle for the children (and by inference, the custodial parent) but the legislators are terrified of being seen as soft on deadbeat parents. If she wants to keep the child and make the guy pay. I have one child and is paying child support of 1375 a month. But goes to Vegas and Cancun all the time.. and when he takes the kid , he makes him babysit so he and his new wife can go and get drunk on a bar and party. Neither the child custody nor the child support laws ought to be applied excessively to fathers. Child supp0rt took almost all he made leaving us with a home in disrepair, while she took vacations on that money we were sending her!! And every other weekend in visition is truly a joke, its about 14% of the time during the week, the mother still needs to support the children the other 86% of the time. Some of you men are just EVIL. I have to agree with you. Problem with support. Who still has never gotten to meet his brother. Again, there are exceptions, however, when parental rights are determined by the government, we do not live in a democracymore like the dark ages. Once last comment, what is sad also is so many women would use this unjust system. I am a teacher and clinician. So my story is similar, Im in a relationship with an awesome man who happens to be a divorcee like myself. They have been making me pay child support. Here's how you can give Black fathers a better chance in court. Men are abusive when you want his money, and women are never abusive. Grow up and do what YOU need to do. The entire financial system, DCSS, and the corrupt IRS needs a complete overhaul or they should get the fight club treatment (see end of movie). Taxmanyou work at IRS? Open your mind and see the truth. The system is wrong. All it took, was one argument, and Ive had CSS on my back ever since. You have your freedom. Its not about male or female. Though I understand what this article is trying to say I dont fully agree with it. Please let me know . Our automated calculations take into account taxes(if youre not working cash), and visitation time. What your mother is doing is illegal. that for the last two years my college fund contributions for my child had been underpaid (because I was not receiving an accounting of the fund from my ex, and I refused to contribute further until she could prove that she was not spending my childs college money). I had all 3 of our kids full time and I worked full time. and low and behold im being taken to court to ALTER the child support 2 weeks later.. they want 1200$ a month for 3 kids i never get to see because of her lies and brain washing..I even have to PAY for the visitation i had 3 visits in a year. People have no idea how many mothers also lose custody and end up paying child support they cant afford. The other reason why I didnt take her to court because the judicial system is all in favor of the woman and not the kids or fathet. Current Child Support Laws Are a Barrier to True Shared ParentingExcellent article. That line where you say that people assume both parents have good paying jobs goes both ways. What if the husband doesnt want a divorce but is forced into it anyway? Good luck man. i dont blame the ncp for not wanting to pay the ransom of a kidnapper. After the deed is done they are left with zero physical consequences. Our children are suppose to be the best of both of us. 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